Integrating music with the care of the dying is becoming more common in hospice and palliative care programs. Because music reaches a deep, non-rational part of us, it can calm fears, normalize breathing and stir comforting memories for the dying person.
Despite the fact that patients usually become non-verbal at the end of life, hearing is often the last sense to go. If difficult feelings like grief or anxiety or sorrow are blocking a person from relaxing into the death process, music can soften these struggles and help a person feel more peaceful. Music can shift the energy in a room, and in a person. There are many ways to bring in music as a comforting tool.
Play recordings of favorite musicians and songs. If patient is not communicative, watch for non-verbal signs of relaxation or irritation. Play the music that is calming. It is helpful to have some discussion about music with the patient before the end draws near, to learn what the patient really loves. Celia’s House has a library of CD’s and players as well as Alexa to make music easily available.
Thanatology is the study of the medical, psychological and sociological aspects of dying. Music thanatology focuses on using music to help patients in a holistic way, with all these aspects. This study has gained regard as the benefits have proven so effective for so many at the end of life. An excellent website about Music thanatology is www.chaliceofrepose.org
Harp, Voice or Flute
Gentle music played at the bedside is usually well received, particularly harp or voice, or Native American flute.
Heart Song Singers of Southern Oregon – When invited, they visit the bedside with two to four singers and invite families and caregivers to join them in song or to participate by listening. We offer a special repertoire of gentle songs from a variety of traditions to comfort and bring peace. website: https://www.heartsongsingers.org
Rev. Anne Bartlett of Trinity Episcopal Church in Ashland eloquently talks about the “thin veil” separating the here and the hereafter-indeed at the end of life the veil becomes very thin. Vibrations in music (harp or soft voices) accompany the dying as they begin to go. A favorite Threshold song with words by Jack Kornfield goes like this “In the end what matters most is how well have I lived, how well have I loved, how well have I learned to let go.”
Music of Hope and Blessings
Curated by Rev. Mary Piper and Chaplin Carol Miller
- Praise Song for the Helpers Christine Valters Painter Spoken prayer with visuals: https://vimeo.com/404108104.
- Love This Life by Ann Reed.www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpxFEQKmC48
- Lionel Ritchie, New version – virtual – We are the World – American Idol and Other stars https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FH4Ow92YEDI
- Virtual Choir Hymn from an Episcopal church in Portland Oregon
- A music student united more than 300 musicians to do a virtual performance https://www.cnn.com/2020/05/10/us/musc-student-virtual-choir-trnd/index.html.
- A Whole New World by a South African mother and son. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lheCi9nzMVA
- Here Comes the Sun Camden Voices Virtual choir
- It is Well with my Soul https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDIJz6zzHNU
- Cello songs of comfort from around the world. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hE1enPDh3nM.
- The Prayer by Celine Dion and Josh Groban https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=DbviXG_56ss.
- Be Not Afraid by Oregon Catholic Press https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RF0DIpFOoBg.
- You Raise Me Up– spectacular version done by two young kids on a talent show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIrYppuNEI8
- We Shall Overcome – Bruce Springsteen The Seeger Sessions. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULYpA_Z4yx8&list=OLAK5uy_kLnnZP0WkflWP_7pxkwgEnpQcwdOoEE1o&index=13&t=0s
- Wash My Eyes– Leandra Peak from cover album of Greg Browns songs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGBRl6Ktjfo&list=RDcGBRl6Ktjfo<br< a=””> /> > </br<>
- You’ve got a friend – The cast of “Beautiful” from all over the world. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDdxXL6fdwA
- Eric Whitacre’s Virtual Choir 6: Sing Gently https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8_KArhyEJg
- There’s Gold in Them Hills by the Chaps virtual Choir https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugJYWo_Pxdw.
- Rise Up – Andra Day // Cover by Mother and Son (Jordan Rabjohn Cover) – YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3AnzWa4AJ1w
- Time To Say Goodbye – Adrian & Emma-Jean Galliard